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Been Awhile, But Wait, There Will Be MORE!!!

Hello all,

I realize that it has been a while sense I last posted. probably because I tend to write when I am out of a relationship seemingly. Well right now I am a really awesome relationship with a wonderful person, but I have missed being able to get my thoughts out somewhere. so I have returned to work on my rant. I have something really cool in the works so for now I will say that I hope everyone who has looked at my Blog is having a good day and that they will look forward to my newest project:

An Anthology of Cross-san's Encyclopedia!

This is your BooMan,
Sighing Out....

An Interesting Point

This is an intersting quote by Johnny Depp:

It is a topic that I have never really thought about and if anyone who reads this could comment on this then I would love to start a forum on the topic.

What Does It Mean To Be Pure?

Today I would like to talk about a conversation that I had with a friend of mine. the topic of which was perversion and pureness. Well you see I see my friend as a beautiful and mostly pure person, but who is also perverted. She argues that she is not perverted because she is pure. Now let us examine and expand on this argument.

To begin, I have two ground rules that I need to place to make this argument. One is that I will not be going into what makes her pure or perverted because that is something that could argued about (more I think on it the less pure she is haha), I will only be talking about my view on perversion and purity and if it can coexist. Two, I will be defining purity in the modern social context as I view it. Purity is found within the goodness of people. People who are pure can be naive, but mostly they are kind. To be fully pure is to be completely uncorrupted.

So, the next question is: Is it possible for perversion to not be a corrupting factor?

My answer is YES.

The reason for this is that perversion has throughout western history been seen as corrupting. As our world has grown and learned to listen to each other, we see the legalization of same-sex marriage  a ceremonial event that has been traditionally seen as between a man and a woman. In modern years we see acceptance for each others feelings. people finally are beginning to understand that, just because you don't feel in one way, that it is wrong and terrible for others to feel differently. We see people realizing that people will love who they love. 

Now, how is perversion corrupting? Well I hate to say it but the best defense of perversion comes from the gun companies. Perversion does not hurt people, people use perversion to hurt people. Now I know that some people might claim that this is not the case in of people with violent tendencies due to mental illness but that is a different issue all together. So to revise, what corruption occurs from a person being perverted in a way that does not harm anyone and when said person commits acts of perversion with a partner(s) in a consensual manner?

I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. I don't think that there is anything corrupted about people expressing their perversion. However, there are exceptions. if people are exposed to perversion before they are ready, the result might harm the viewer. we all develop differently and we must accept this about us. For if we forget that we are not all the same, that we do not all have the same level of comprehension about the world around us, we may do unneeded harm others. The pure can be perverted, so long as they use and experience perversion in a safe way. Even a great masochist or sadist can be pure.

Some food for thought,

BooMan

One Mad Man Advertising Another

Hello Everyone,

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His new written ravings will send you thinking about a world you may never have wanted to, but if you are anything like me, who loves to see all the views of the world and bask in even the maddest of ramblings, then  look no farther than the honest man we know and love as the Reverend of Despairs.

This high praise brought to you by your friend,
BooMan

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

A recent study (Article here) has been looking into whether or not men and women can be real friends. According to the team from the University of Wisconsin, despite thinking that heterosexual men and women (restricted to undergraduate students who were the participants) can "just be friends," we may in reality have underlying romantic feelings for our opposite gender "friends." The study found an significant difference (statistically at least) in the men's desire to date or being attracted to their female "friend" in comparison to women's attraction and desire to date their male "friends". However, they also found that women subcutaneously suspect that their male "friend" has romantic feelings while consciously underestimation the mutual lack of attraction that both parties may feel. As Scientific America summarized these findings

"Men seem to see myriad opportunities for romance in their supposedly platonic opposite-sex friendships. The women in these friendships, however, seem to have a completely different orientation—one that is actually platonic." (Men and Women Can't be "just friends?")

 Now can anyone spot the glaring flaw? These were undergrads! a bunch of horny young adults! And I say this while being a horny young adult myself, I agree that it is hard to think of others of the opposite sex as something more than a potential lover. but who knows maybe I am just a young adolescent male fixated on relationships and sex.... oh wait, the researchers thought of this too. That is right, their article continues with another study they did looking at a sample of 249 adults (take a look at page 579 or the article)! Among this sample were mostly people who were married or in a serious relationship. Here the researchers found that participants were about 5 times more likely to list "romantic feelings" as an outcome of opposite-sex friendships as a bad thing. Despite that,

"males on the younger end of the spectrum were four times more likely than females to report romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, whereas those on the older end of the spectrum were ten times more likely to do the same." (more from the SA article)

 Now then, what do we get if we mix both studies findings? well it show that despite both men and women thinking that romantic relations from friendships are more of a bad idea than a good one. Men still hold out hope for further romantic relations.at the same time, women are able to be content in their friendships and in the status of their male friends. We hope to find something more and men might become more ill-content with their relationships as time goes on (another point of study to be explored). To find some that a person that a man can be themselves through and through around is a dream of every man.

Here is your BooMan rant of the day, some of it seems to be a bit off but i am mostly able to get my point across:
The old adage "a friend will help you move, but a real friends will help you move a dead body" is a nice way to describe men's value on friendship. A man's best friend is someone they can talk about most anything with (almost, lets keep in mind still that men tend to not be very mushy) but when push comes to shove a true friend is there for his friend. Now, I say all of this all while keeping in mind that women have best friends that are the same if not going further but as a man i don't really have a horse in that race so IDK (perhaps a nice reader could give their point of view, or not, hasn't happened yet lol). continuing on, for men that spectrum of activities/interests to emotions could be seen like line. For men they have things they like (I.E. sports, video games, other stereotypes) that many women may not be as gung-ho for, but their best friends are. The women they date may be in a circle on the other end where emotion is shared more than their interests, but where would a female friend who shares many of the same interests land? Who knows if such people (members a preferred sex who share in interests and are attracted to the you) really exist. Some days it is harder to believe that we will be able to find these people, but we can never give up hope. That is part of the wonder of humanity, there are far to many of us to just call of the search yet.

Food for thought from your friend,
BooMan

Put Up or Shut Up

Today I put forth the hardest to fallow piece of advice to fallow ever.....well realistically at least. This posts topic is the motto of "Put-up or Shut-up." This is the old philosophy that I am trying to fallow. This idea applies to all parts of a relationship. Can we, as normal humans, do what we need to at times and forget what our heads tell us and instead fallow our hearts. Can we forgo the risks and decide that every day that we delay and let that special someone stay ignorant to our feelings? Can we just play it safe and wait for them to tell you first?

                Some people see this view as childish or naive. I don’t think so, even at my age and with the number of people I have dated over the years, I still find my heart freezing and my face flush at the thought of telling the person on my mind that I have feelings for them. Our world is full of people and opportunities. If you are the say the wrong like me, then take this piece of advice; think over what you have to say and even if you don’t quite get it right when you the moment matters, they will hopefully know what you mean. If not try again and if you are still turned down, consider this, If they are not willing to give you that chance, do you even really want to be dating them?

A few things to consider, though on settings for confessions or asking people out, and many of these may seem obvious but sometimes a reminder is nice. Places with a lot of people are nice to hang out but not good places for asking people you know are concerned with public appearance. If it is a stranger, then yes public places are good because it will make them feel safer in numbers, but with friends who you want to turn into more you need to be alone with them. What you are talking to them about is private. You’re talking to them person to person about something important, not casual conversation area material.

                To “Put-up or Shut-up” is something to remember when you just don’t know if you should. If they turn you down then that is fine, at least you tried and sure enough there will be others. What is the worst thing the person can do?.... oh ya, rip out your heart and stomp on it, but you know what? Fuck them then! They are not worth you then. You deserve respect when you offer your heart on a plate to them and if they don’t respect you enough to be decent when turning you down, it is their loss.

                This advice I would give to anyone no matter their orientation, even though people who are GLTB are a minority. I you are not sure you still have the right to try. Perhaps let them know your orientation subtlety, just to try and get them thinking about it a little. Then maybe ask them out in more private settings.

                Now over all this advice is for the people who want to ask out a friend, someone who they see very often, not for strangers you meet at a bar. Sometimes the wait and see option works, sometimes, things just happen for the better or the worse. All I am saying here is what I have found in my own experience. As always, be careful and be safe.

Another rambling of your friend,

BooMan