So I was thinking of
more philosophical parts of a relationship and such (what I do when
bored) when I hit one aspect that made me think. Are head games are unavoidable
in a relationship?
I feel as though the how beginning of a relationship is a head
game. In the beginning of a relationship, the two potential lovers basically go
in circles around each other, like to swordsman on the field of battle waiting
for the other to do one of two things. Slip up and show that they are not a
good match, resulting in them being chased away or for them to prove themselves
to be sincere so that they can accept each other and let their walls fall down.
When
two people first meet and consider that they may want to go out with one another,
a fear may arise from one or both parties. This is a normal fear commonly, but
not always, caused by the fear of rejection. More than once has this fear
crippled me into non-action, however this can also save us from going after
causes that are futile. Eventually a person must decide if an action is worth
the risk. However, waiting can also cause a missed opertunity.
So what
do we as humans do to protect ourselves, to test a potential match? We play
head games.
The two lovers may pull up their walls from time to time and
this is because it is our natural instinct to fear the judgment of those we
lean on for emotional support. It is important to communicate with our partners
because this is the only way to truly understand each other on our deepest
levels.
The total time needed for the later to occur is completely based
on the couple and the events surrounding them. If they rush or wait too long
then that can ruin the relationship. This is not a bad thing however; sometimes
this can result in time apart that makes the couple realize their need for each
other. On the other hand this may also allow us to see the faults in our
relationships that we may never have known were there and make us realize it
was not meant to be.
When two people do let their guards down completely that is also
the most dangerous time. This is a time of discovery for both parties. We not
only find out about those we have begun to or have already invested our
affection towards, but we also find out wants, needs and dislikes about ourselves
that we may have never realized.
In the end we can find for ourselves that the highest levels of
compatibility will be found when they want to be and if we try to hurry it or
run away from it then we may destroy a beautify thing before it is able to blossom.
Playing
head games are normal, they protect us, but we have to be careful too. Eventually
you must except that people are people with emotions and thoughts too. If you
play to many head games then you may only drive a lover away. Our world is full
of liars and cheats, but there are also so many wonderful people out there that
are searching for their true love. For that person they are longing for. For that
person you can share your life with. The trick is finding that person and not
letting them go once you know your love mutual.
A little food for thought from your friendly neighborhood,
BooMan
